3 Obstacles in the Healing Process of PTSD, CPTSD or Childhood Trauma
It’s the ever pressing question.
Can you fully heal and recover after trauma?
Whenever you get triggered, have a relapse and all your symptoms and post-traumatic stress reactions flood in, it seem like you haven’t made any headway at all.
And this is a normal reaction to have.
You feel the same anxiety, hopelessness, despair and anger and for some time you are fully identified with it. There is no space for observation; to sit with it. It consumes you.
Fortunately, if you have put in constructive therapeutic work; those periods when you feel you are immersed in the past, and its associated emotions, will become much shorter.
Why Though, Does it Seem as if I’m back at Square One
There are a few things that you must learn to realize, about when you get triggered. Let me list some of these below, and see which of these resonates with you:
Whenever your stress levels rise, your default emotional patterns to deal with that stress, also start returning to the foreground. If you’re seeing those default patterns in relation to the mounting stress, you might start giving too much importance to it.
This in turn can make you begin to look for the cause as to why these emotional reactions are taking place.
And it can be this very insistent search for meaning that makes you look back to the past, infusing it yet again, with the stimulus for renewed emotional energy.
When you feel your periods of emotional activation are starting to lessen, and your general scope of resilience has enlarged, you know you are on the right path.
However, the environment that you have created for yourself and/or people around you, might not have changed thus far and might not match your ‘new self’ who has worked so hard on recovered healing.
And this can become problematic as either the environment or the people around you can drag you back into an energy frequency that relates to your past conflicts.
You will either have to change your activities and the people you hang out with, or your loved ones, and all those you keep close to you, will have to change in line with the progress you have been making.
As human beings we are highly adaptable. Unfortunately we also adapt to unhealthy patterns that, initially, have been put in place defensively, as survival mechanisms.
They provided some sense of safety or ways of coping but have become destructive in the long run. The problem is that you have gotten used to those patterns. They form an integral part of your identity and to move away from dysfunctional patterns might feel more threatening than to stay with them.
This seduction can make you gravitate back time and again to your old negative patterns of identity, even when you knowingly ‘pop’ out of them from time to time.
Negating Default Patterns and Shifting Importance onto a Constructive Reality
Once you bring awareness to these patterns and constructively act on them they can help you move into the next stage of your healing process.
Be kind and patient with yourself.
Which of these resonated the most with you? Leave your comment below.