Trauma & Addiction go hand in glove. In this conversation, Ben and I go into the necessity of addiction, addressing the underlying trauma that fuels addiction, and how that can help in moving away from addiction.
Resolving Complex Trauma & PTSD
Helping those of you with Complex Trauma or PTSD to make real progress, so that you can live a normal life again.
Trauma Is The Pandemic
Why Addressing Trauma is Paramount
I can’t stress this enough: Trauma is the Pandemic.
Trauma is the gateway to addiction.
Trauma is what perpetuates violence, poverty, wars, and ongoing abuse on a micro and macro level.
Trauma is often the cause of many of the chronic health issues that plague our societies.
Trauma and its patterns of reenactment are the cause of the ongoing lies, deceits, struggles of power, destabilization of countries, and mistrust between human beings.
That being is said, Trauma is hardly addressed at all.
The severity and long-term effects of Trauma are continuously minimized, stigmatized, or downright ignored.
It is, however, the root cause of conflict.
I am the founder of this website, and am responsible for the daily workings of this platform for Resolving Complex Trauma and PTSD, and for keeping it updated with insightful and useful content. I use a cognitive and somatic (body) based psycho-therapeutic approach to effectively treat Complex Trauma and PTSD.
My approach focuses on regulating, processing and containing the processes of dissociation, the fight-flight-freeze-please responses, and relearning boundaries and vulnerability.
If we don’t heal as individuals and collectively, we will stay exactly where we are.
I don’t care how many peace treaties are signed, how many mantras you sing, how long you stand on your head, visualize colors and do your affirmations; if you, and we as a collective, do not address the emotional residue that is Trauma, things will not change.
From a very young age, I have seen very clearly that our emotional patterns create the reality around you and us.
They decide who you attract and who you reject, who you relate to and the life situations that you create around yourself.
These reenactments happen both on an individual micro level and on a collective macro level.
Think of your own personal situation or that of some of your friends or loved ones, where you see how these reenactment patterns are played out and early life patterns and situations are recreated; or, look at situations on a macro level, in which certain regions on earth are in a perpetual cycle of war, conflict, or poverty due to Trauma that is passed down from one generation to another.
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The issue of Trauma is real. It is actual.
You do not need to be a psychologist, psychiatrist, or psychotherapist to be able to see this.
You do not need more labels, more diagnoses, or more specialists to think for you and disempower you.
Trauma is at the root of the many mental/emotional disorders that we have today.
It is by learning about yourself—why you act in or act out in a certain way, how your emotional survival patterns reenact themselves in your relationships—that you can lessen your conflict.
It is through patience and persistence that you pave the way towards healing.
It is by creating a cognitive framework that you start to understand your patterns and behaviors, which will help to lessen the guilt, blame, shame and excessive thoughts that you have been having.
It is by starting to get entry into the body—from which you have dissociated in order to survive—that you can start to feel again and process, integrate, or release the emotions that have been held in the body.
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Addiction is a consequence of, it’s never the issue in itself. When you feel stressed, you look for a way to pacify yourself. And addiction, be it either behavioral addiction or substance addiction, fulfills that purpose.
When you suffer, you naturally want to get away from that state. When you’re in pain, your mind goes to its opposite of not wanting to be in pain.
This work needs to be done by YOU. By each one of US. Nobody is going to do it for you. There are no saviors, no gurus, no specialists who are going to do this for you.
Be wary of those who promise you a bright future and sell you hope. This road is tough, ugly, hard, and full of breakdowns before breakthroughs. It is a long road, and not for the fainthearted.
I am not going to sugarcoat this for you.
Yes, you will have breakthroughs. You will have moments of peace and lightness. You will start to see your patterns more clearly. You will start to notice that you stay stuck in a trigger and activation for less time each time, provided that you do the work.
This is healing.
Meeting your emotional pain of the past—within sufficient containment—will help you to process what you have been holding inside.
Redefining the boundaries of what you want or don’t want, or what you allow and won’t allow is part of your growth.
Allowing yourself to open up—with new discernment—and take on new projects, relationships, and ventures will become part of your learning, your exploration, and your expansion into more of yourself.
I am inviting you on this healing journey.
On Trauma & Dissociation
Everything You Need To Know About Dissociation
Dr. Art and I got together for six conversations, and went deeply into how dissociation manifest and how it relates to different types of trauma and character expression.
This brand-new eBook of these six conversations has been added to the Trauma Essential Series.
You can get access to the first chapter, for FREE, right here:
Your own patterns, other people’s motives, what and whom you want or don’t want in your life.
How you want to live.
Don’t take “no” for an answer if an intention is aligned with your purpose. Keep to your intention, keep finding possibilities, people you resonate with, and opportunities to improve your life.
It is on this premise that I invite you to go through this website and the resources provided. Make up your mind as to whether you resonate with the content or not.
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To your recovery,
Touched a sensitive spot in my soul.
I came across Roland's website while I was doing my research on how the deal with trauma resulted from the loss of my husband. As an individual who likes to be in control of her emotions, Roland's words touched a sensitive spot in my soul. I was resonating with what he was presenting in his teachings. We set up the first session, and the rest is history.
I have worked with Roland for a year. He showed me how to tune into my body so that I can manage feelings of pain and sadness, how to allow grief and pain to be with me, but not dwell in them for too long. He helped me channel the nightmares I had at one point by trying to help me find the meaning behind them. He taught me how to create that space that would allow me to grieve without being overwhelmed by it.
I am forever grateful to you, Roland, for pulling me out of that darkness that was engulfing me each day. Saying only "thank you" is not enough to express my appreciation and respect towards you as a professional and a human being.