Insights into Trauma and PTSD

Insights into Trauma and PTSD

  • ‘In essence the therapist’s role is to help engage the client in active meditation. It is that state of meditation, of non-attached observation, that processes emotional residue. The therapist helps to hold the space, containing emotions and gently curbing attempts of escape.’

  • ‘When we are overwhelmed by emotion it either turns inward through suppression or overflows outwardly. Think of blame and hatred as an overflowing response of anger and self-reproach as anger acting in on the sense of self.’

  • ‘Addictive behavior or addiction to substances has altered our relation to our pain-pleasure centers in the brain and creates an additional problem of craving. It masks and perpetuates the underlying Post-Traumatic Stress which is often at the origin of it all.’

  • ‘The emotional charge of trauma coupled to a coping habit (drink, drugs, shopping, sex, etc.) reinforces an unhealthy cyclic build up and release of energy in the nervous system.’

  • ‘Guilt, blame, shame, embarrassment, pride or self-reproach are reactions to deal with an overwhelming emotion. They are an intrinsic part of a traumatic experience.’

  • ‘When states of disconnection and Post-Traumatic Stress persists the dis-connective state becomes an identity in itself and thus it becomes very hard to move out of it. The fear of reconnecting, working through the trauma and addressing the helplessness also means death of the ‘trauma- identity’. We thus rather tend to stay with the known, even if it is painful and destructive, than to face the unknown and potential healing.’

  • ‘Holding the disconnection; feeling it; becoming intimate with it, starts making it more fluid, less frozen, paving the way for connecting again, for feeling the body, the sensations, the pains.’

  • ‘Realizing and bringing into awareness that the persisting coping emotion and ‘coping habit are part of an identity structure prevents infusing past history with emotional rebuild-up. Furthermore, to look at the identity structure, one must also address the sense of control (and safety) the coping habits have had to deal with the traumatic overwhelm and to do a reality check to see if the need to control is still valid. This is a big one – to let go of control.’

  • ‘It’s that middle-ground of neither indulging or drowning in emotion nor holding it in or suppressing it – that starts to discharge and digest the high energy charge of the nervous system.’

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  1. Nuria  January 12, 2016

    One of my questions is: How long does trauma last in the mind and behavior? How is it possible to move on a 100% after traumatic experiences?

    • Roland  January 12, 2016

      It is very subjective, meaning it varies from person to person, and is experience dependent. You will know when you are symptom free when the past is not carried over into the present.

  2. Sharon  January 12, 2016

    I didn’t know there was a PTSD 2. However yes with time I know that even though a person will always have PTSD you can learn to take back control of your life from the experience that caused it. I am working on it and I won’t lie….. It’s hard! I am still struggling with forgiveness and flash backs. My husband has it too and he too has a hard time dealing with it (his was caused by totally different circumstance). However we have a wonderful counselor as well as support group (friends and loved ones). It is a slow process but having a hobby or something to do when you need to clear your head does help!

    • Roland  January 12, 2016

      Hi Sharon, thank you for writing here. I know it’s hard work but worthy work! I am happy to hear you have a support system in place which is so vital to recovery. Keep going. You can be totally symptom free. The memory might always be scar but at some point the emotional charge might be fully digested.

  3. Sally  July 7, 2017

    I have recently begun counselling to address all the bad things that happened through my childhood that I have suppressed and locked away for over 22 years. Im really strugglung with opening up and feel like I always subconsciously self censor and sanitised what I share and then I come away flooded with thoughts about everything I didn’t say. I don’t know how to stop myself from applying this filter and to feel like I can be completely open. I have massive issues with trust and this counsellor is the only peeson i have ever spoken out loud to about my thoughts and feelings it’s all very alien to me and I’m not sure how to dismantle those barriers so I can talk freely. Do you have any insight you can share?

    • Roland  July 7, 2017

      Trust and the therapeutic relationship is a process. It takes time, consistency and persistence to come to that point where you can be more open. Your ‘censoring out’ is based on survival related to what you have gone through. As you persist your ability to contain more of the emotions that you have been suppressing you will find that is becomes safer and more natural to open up (with the right people).

      • Sally  July 7, 2017

        Thank you for your response I had not realised I self censor for this reason. I hope then that with time I will be able to build trust and speak; Its just a terrifying prospect right now. Thank you.

  4. Bee  August 10, 2017

    I’m in intensive therapy now and am dealing with over 40 years of suppressed feelings. Lost my mother when I was 7 (fortunately found out recently I was her favourite and LOVED VERY MUCH) my father remarried and I had emotional abuse ever since…I did not fight, flight or freeze I ended up PLEASING people. This is what broke me aftr I tried to help my husband’s mother for 2 years only to be emotionally abused by her which nearly brought me to a nervous breakdown and depression. After my kids and friends urged and nagged me to go for therapy I finally went and met an AWESOME therapist. Am doing really well and we are about to start the (re)constructing part of therapy. It was very very tough and I lost alot of weight (not complaining) and isolated myself a lot but have come through this and am actually starting to live and enjoy life for myself and not other people. Wasn’t easy had to cut certain people.out of my life but has so been worth it. Thank you so much for your articles it has helped me deal and realise that this has actually happened to me and that my therapist is doing everything right. Thank you


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