Dealing with PTSD: Confronting One’s Demons
We have a love affair with our suffering, created by the very attempt to overcome it. It is this movement of wishing to solve; of insisting to understand, that disconnects us from our emotional reality and thereby contributes to its continuation.
It is our continuous ‘efforting’ itself that is counterproductive. This attempt by thought, to fix or cure, is where the root cause of our confusion lies.
Through our practical education we are so accustomed to ‘doing something’ to get results; to expend energy and effort to achieve something, and by doing so, we have assumed the idea that ’emotionally’ this is equally applicable.
And there is where we go wrong!
The Movement of Time and Effort and Dealing with PTSD
Effort implies an objective towards something and a movement away from ‘what is’. When we move away from ‘what is’ through thought, we are not addressing the actual present which is where the pain and its resolution lies.
Why does it seem that therapy can take forever? Because this is one of the misunderstood fundamentals that needs to be addressed, firstly in the cognitive way and, secondly in practice.
When addressing a ‘stuckness’, an emotion and its physical pain; can you meet it without moving away from it?
Treating PTSD: Negation as Key to Breaking Patterns
To neither reject nor accept it, which means to negate involvement with any kind of thought whatsoever. To negate blame, guilt, self-reproach, shame, embarrassment, pride, self-righteousness, self-pity and such like. To negate the effort to be somewhere else; to negate a becoming better, or some form of spiritual interpretation, and also to negate to accept, to indulge or to drown in that emotion.
Which means that you are absolutely present to ‘what is’ however ugly or painful that reality might appear to be. And from then on in that state of meeting your emotional residue, through the negation of thought, you are actually building up the capacity to contain your pain, and hence the processing of it occurs.
Doing Less is More in Awareness
It is not about you doing something; it is about learning to disengage from reacting to your emotions and being present in awareness.
And when awareness acts without further build-up through reaction and thus identification, your past emotional residue ceases to impact on the present.
If you really get this at a very deep, fundamental level, you can move through complex trauma fairly rapidly.
It is the ending of time and the unbiased meeting with one’s own darkness, that opens up a doorway to beauty.
In which ways are you trying to overcome your trauma and how does it prove to be unproductive for you? Leave your comment here below.